Created to be his What?

Debi Pearl wrote a book entitled Created to be his Help Meet>> I would not have been ready for this book 5 years ago. I would have thought that she was from some submissive-head covering wearing-never saying a word--cult-- Somewhat like how we view Muslim women.Debi Pearl takes the Bible and dissects it in such a way that things she brings to light can humble, enrage and altogether alter a marriage permanently. One thing that she says is that "If you successfully do the job of leading the family, you will not find satisfaction in it. It is far better that the job be done poorly by your husband than to be done well by you." I have discovered that by giving back the leadership of my family, after a time of transition (where Riky was not sure that I was really ready to stop fighting his authority), I have found satisfaction. This is not to say that there aren't times that I think that he is less than fair, or wise in a matter, but silence is really golden! There are times that I mention something that he thinks is absolutely stupid. If I give him room to breath (even if I am not done bringing my full petition), oftentimes he will ask me to elaborate later so that he fully understands what I am asking. For example: Michael has brought to me the request for his own room. I mentioned it to Riky just simply by saying that Michael was thinking he would like his own room. Riky said that he doesn't see any way for that to happen and that it would be to expensive for an additional room. The NEXT DAY I said that I was thinking that if we took out the school nook (aka wet bar) there might be space for a small room there. We could use it as an office and move Michael upstairs. Riky had originally thought that I was asking for him to build onto the house. He did not realize that even though we have the school nook, I tend to use the kitchen table for school anyway. The nook basically holds the books that will be used in years to come and all of the school supplies. If organized properly, I could easily store that stuff in the garage that we are going to build in the spring.**SOLD**Michael is probably going to get his room. Our value will go up on the house since a room is definitely more equity friendly than a~wet bar. It is a win win situation and could have been an argument had I said...Sure we have room, of course it won't be that expensive, how much could one room cost..., but I didn't. I am learning lessons one at a time, but I will be the best wife for Riky that God could have ever given him soon enough. It gets easier as time goes by. Debi's book can be purchased at http://www.nogreaterjoy.org/ ~~ IT IS LIFE CHANGING~~